Labels

Labels are used to identify everything, from artichokes to Zenith Tvs. Labels identify, inform, educate, warn, …etc. They can be used for anything and everything, and often are. They can also be used to identify people and people groups. I’ve been meaning to write about labels for quite some time, but recent events have made me want to write about them today.

Most labels are not permanent

This past Tuesday was my three year anniversary of being released from prison. I call it my release “into the wild”, and that’s kinda what it was. Luckily, I hadn’t been in captivity as long as some other people I know, and some are still in captivity. I was very glad to be out, but I also came out with a label; and not a flattering one. In fact, not only is it not flattering, it is downright despised, due to the fear and ignorance propagated by American society.

So, what is the label? We’ll get to that. But first let me ask you what “label” you despise. You have one, right? It’s tied in with racism, hatred, ignorance, fear, anger, jealousy, ..etc; and whatever other negative thoughts we have about others that are not like us. What “label” do you hate? In Jesus’ day, the most feared label was that of “leper”, I think. Regardless of whether or not it was the most hated, it had to be one of the most feared.

Today, it is probably “child molester” or “sex offender”, right? Notice that those are two different labels, but due to ignorance and fear, most people think all “sex offenders” are child molesters; which, by the way, are not the same.

The infamous Limburger cheese

What if something is mis-labeled? For instance, what if you find a container in the cupboard or fridge that says “Limburger cheese”? You’d probably avoid it like the plague, wouldn’t you (if you know anything about Limburger cheese)? I know I would. What if your elderly relative was the one who labeled it? You know, your sweet Grandma who is suffering early onset Alzheimer’s, or who just forgets things sometimes? What if what was in the container is actually chocolate? And what if you trusted the label, rather than actually looking inside to see what was actually in there?

You would miss out on something really good. Yet, that is what we do as a people every day, without even thinking about it. Even though, and despite the fact that labels are temporary, and the people we attach those labels to are a lot of the time people who have done prison time. These are people who have done wrong, sure. In fact, sometimes they haven’t even done what they are accused of. But they have also paid their debt to society according to the law.

That should be the end of their punishment, but in the case of a “sex offender”, the punishment continues on for a lifetime. Try getting a job as a “sex offender”. Yeah, good luck with that.

What about this label? What if, like many of those in prison, they were a child of God prior to being incarcerated, or they came to know Christ in prison? What if, like the cheese example above, you missed out on having a great friend because you see them as a label, rather than taking the time to get to know somebody? What if you saw them as Jesus sees all of us that are “in Him”? As perfect because of the sacrifice Jesus made on our behalf?

What if?

I challenge you today to let go of your negative stereotypes in regards to people you feel are “less than” or not like you, and get to know somebody new. Let me know how you do and who you meet. I’m curious.

Tickle Me Pastor

Tickle Me Elmo was a popular Christmas gift back in the late 90s, and in fact is still popular today. Did you know the Bible talks about being tickled? Yep, in 2 Timothy 4:3 it says: “For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine, but wanting to have their ears tickled, they will accumulate for themselves teachers in accordance to their own desires,” (NASB). In other words, they will find pastors that will confirm what they think, based on what they want. The question is “Is that what God says”?

And let the peace that comes from Christ rule in your hearts. For as members of one body you are called to live in peace. And always be thankful

Colossians 3:15 Nlt
Elmo

In terms of forgiveness, what does God say? “Um, Bill, God says a LOT about forgiveness. Are you going to refer to all of the verses in the Bible? I don’t have that kind of time to read all that”. No, I just want to refer to a couple. First of all, how does God forgive us? 1 John 1:9 – “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness” (ESV), and “As far as the east is from the west, so far does he remove our transgressions from us” (Psalm 103:12 ESV). So, He forgives us in the truest sense of the word; He forgives and forgets.

In Matthew, we see Peter struggling with the question of how to forgive others. At that time, the Rabbis taught that forgiving someone more than three times was not needed, based on Amos 1:3-13, which starts “3 Thus says the Lord: ‘For three transgressions of Damascus, and for four, I will not revoke the punishment,…”‘. In Matthew 18:22 Jesus says, when Peter asks about how often his brother will sin against him, and how often Peter should forgive him, Jesus says: “I do not say to you seven times, but seventy times seven times”.

The implication is that, as fallible humans, we will sin against each other multiple times. And each time we are to forgive them. That’s not easy, especially if what they do triggers something in your past, and you see that person not for who they are but as who caused the original hurt. But I will tell you that if someone forgives me as Jesus forgives us, I will be much more unlikely to further injure that person, because I will see God’s amazing love through their action. And I believe that because they loved me the way God wants them to, especially as a fellow believer, that they will be blessed too.

In summary, pray for discernment in who you listen to when it comes to how you feel, particularly when you are in a place of hurt and pain. The devil comes to steal, kill, and destroy, and can certainly do that from the pulpit. He has certainly killed the relationship between my Christian neighbor and myself, and he will do it to your relationships as well, if you let him. If my pastor always says what I want to hear and not what God says, I need to find a new pastor.